1. Give yourself permission to be messy but only for a specific amount of time.
Women can be hard on themselves post-breakup. You’re going to be sad, you’re going to be angry, and you’re going to be emotional. You should be. Breakups are sad, even if breaking up is the best thing that could have happened. You can’t be a mess forever, but set an end date, and then take the time to be emotional and messy if you need it. Bonus: Breakups are the only acceptable time to show up to lunch in your pajamas clutching My Little Ponies and a jar of peanut butter.